Tweeting About the Law is Trending

Of the forty three Las Vegas law firms I researched, twenty five of them are on Twitter, some are on Facebook, and most are on Linked In.  Many have their social media buttons in the top right corner of their website which is a good place, because quite often when folks visit a website, they do not necessarily scroll down to the bottom, so it’s good to have those buttons up top, and in plain view!

So those twenty-five who made the list will now be followed by @FirstAndVerdict and I’ll start sharing more about their firms, articles from their blogs, etc., You should follow @FirstAndVerdict on Twitter, because it’s important to know about legal issues, and because if you do, you’ll see whose on the list!

Who said that?


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Quotes can be so inspirational but often what’s attributed to one person might not really be so, because who’s to say who said what?  – Judythe Ann Michelle

The other day, I happened to be in a salon and on the wall was a quote that was one of my favorites from Coco Chanel, on the salon had attributed the quote to someone other than she, and I thought it odd, but also amusing.  After all, I mean how do we really know, who said what?  One thing seems to be certain though, that many of the quotes that we often use for inspiration can remind us about what’s so important and what to discard.  Quotes can get us through the toughtest of times including breakups, loss of loved ones, and even those crazy days when everything seems to be going wrong.

If, by chance, you happen to be having one of those days, here are some of my favorite quotes to get you through the day, and hopefully remind you of what’s most important:

“Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell ’em, Certainly I can!”  Then get busy and find out how you can do it.” – Theodore Roosevelt

“Genius begins great works; labor alone finishes them.” – Joseph Joubert

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem . . . ” Zig Ziglar

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” -Gautama Buddha

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” – Confucius

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson

“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store.  What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!-Dr Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas




Who will you meet in Heaven ?

This morning I re-read an email I had received from a woman I met in training while we both learned about how to become volunteers at the domestic violence shelter in the town where I live here in Southern Nevada.  She’s one of the nicest women I’ve ever met, and her career involves conflict management.  The email shared a story about a woman who is traveling the world to help combat what she describes as the ‘rape culture’ in college.  The woman who shared the email with me knew that I had taken to the airwaves and gone ‘undercover’ if you will to help educate about mutual respect for both genders and my desire to reach the male population to help them learn about the reality of the crime, and advocate not only for women but for men, as well.

As I sit writing, missing so much of what was, I am reminded by my own inner voice to be grateful of what is. There are times when we go in certain directions only to find ourselves somewhere that’s quite different than where we had intended to travel. It’s not always easy to accept that things did not necessarily work out as planned but when we take a moment to think and we realize that we are not always the ones in control.

Recently, I took on a role that’s quite different than what I had envisioned and I am currently pondering what’s next.  Perhaps you’ve also been examing where you’re at in your career and/or personal life and wondered just what happened to your plan.  As Thanksgiving draws near and a new year is almost upon us, I find myself questioning and re-working my plan knowing full well that perhaps God (or the universe) has placed us exactly where we He needs us to be.  Most of all, I want to be mindful to be thankful for all that was, and all that is, and open to what will be.  No things are not as I planned, but rather than dwell, I’m making choices that will allow me to make changes so that I continue to grow.

The young lady, I mentioned earlier, who is out there educating about college ‘rape’ culture travels the country to help others to understand the value of mutual respect.  This morning, I connected her with the host of the sports talk radio program I’m connected with.  Who knows, maybe you’ll hear her on the radio.

Remember that story, The Five People You Meet in Heaven?

Forever thankful,

He’s just not that into you … I know

Ugh, I hate this movie! Almost as much as I hate that movie, The Ugly Truth.  As much as we fail to read the writing on the wall, there it is, plain as day! Staring back at us, with sharp edges.  What does it say, “He’s just not that into you.” So what’s a girl to do?  First of all, it’s probably a good idea to not put yourself in the position in the first place.  If he’s married to someone else, and has chosen not to sever the relationship, for whatever reason, accept that he’s just not that into you and walk away.  You deserve to be valued, you deserve to be respected, and if he’s just not that into you, it’s okay.  There’s somebody out there who will be, and it’s better to be ready for when he shows up, than to sit around and stay stuck and hoping.  #notetoself

Stop being so sad, you live in Vegas!

I was definitely feeling homesick last week and being home sick, literally surely didn’t help matters.  I miss Madison Square Garden, and I miss ‘the city’ and I miss waking up and being able to walk to the beach!!! I also miss teaching, and seeing the kids in school, only I came out to Vegas for a reason, and even though things have not yet worked out to exactly as planned, it’s not as though things are all bad!!! In fact, most of the time I’m super happy I decided to move out here, despite missing my home.  So for what it’s worth, thank you to all of those who took the time to text, call and comment on my Facebook page, and remind me that just because my friends are far away physically, doesn’t mean that they are far away.  Also, what’s so wrong with selling insurance for now, maybe forever, if it’s something I believe in?  Maybe I ought to turn my mindset around and start looking at the glass half full, right?

It’s not that I do not understand the label that’s attached to salespeople who ‘whore’ themselves out there and just do things to make a quick buck.  That’s never been me, and it never will be me.  I’m so much more than that, and if someone accuses me of doing somthing just to make commission, why should I take it to heart, when I know it’s not true?  Besides, it’s not as though I don’t have my business, and my dreams of making into something special someday, just things take time, right?  Right!

So let’s count the positives that have happened since I left my home back East:

  1. I have a really nice apartment and the rent is about $600. a month cheaper
  2. Of course, it’s not a block away from the beach, but ……..
  3. I have a really nice group of friends and I would not trade them for anything
  4. I have met some awesome folks who invited me to handicap and be on their radio program every Friday morning to pre-record, and it’s so much fun!
  5. I wake up and see the mountains and an amazing view of The Strip
  6. The weather is amazing most months of the year
  7. I managed to land a pretty cool job which will allow me flexibility to keep my business going, and also allow me to purchase health insurance for way less than what I was paying
  8. I have spent most of the past year with someone who’s been incredibly nice and there for me during some of the roughest times, when I’ve been super homesick
  9. I have my health and I still have a heart, a brain and I’m working on that courage!!!

I still get mad at things I probably should not get mad at, and I wish I could just click my heels like Dorothy did or did not do, and end up in my bedroom back home.  Only home is where your heart is, and as much as I miss back East, and what I used to do, what I’m doing isn’t all that bad.  I wish I was able to teach out here, but for whatever reason …. I suppose it’s time to focus on what I can do, rather than what I can’t do and decide to be happy! Thank you to everyone who reminded me to put my ‘big girl pants on’ and stop being sad.  Set backs happen, and having the rug pulled out from me AGAIN on the Monday Night Fantasy contest didn’t help my mindset, but in the big picture, I guess it doesn’t really matter.  Somethings are just not meant to be.  Onward!



Did I really sign on to sell insurance?

There are days where I swear this is not my life.  What happened to the days when I would wake up, drive my son to school, and then find my way to the courthouse?  Or better yet, what happened to my apartment in New York City, and my son’s crib?  Where have the years gone?  Nothing has turned out the way it was supposed to, and for the life of me, I don’t remember what happened to the book I was supposed to be writing, or that prince who was supposed to show up, and propose we get married at the speedway.  Did I really let go of my apartment by the beach?  Say it isn’t so!

And now, as if things weren’t bad enough, I am pretty sure I signed on to sell insurance!  I used to have an office, a view of the city, and clients!!! Can somebody help me understand what’s happened?  Better yet, do you have any leads, because I need to make rent, and I sell insurance! Ugh, I swear in my mind, there seems to be nothing worse than this, so how on earth do I change my mindset and decide that this is what I’m supposed to be doing???

I didn’t move to Vegas to sell insurance! So what are the odds that I will be successful at this new venture?  Is God playing a joke on me and putting me right back where I started?  What sets me apart from all those other folks out there who sell insurance?  Why would someone want to give me an opportunity to quote on their coverages?  Someone once told me there’s an “insurance whore” standing on every corner, and that’s such a horrible thought to behold.  Working for commission, couldn’t I have found some other way to make it in Vegas?

Stay tuned . . . it can’t get much worse! 😉


Do men really prefer dumb blondes?

When I was young, blondes were associated with being dumb.  I had blonde hair, did that mean I was dumb?  “Of course not,” my father used to say, “Your hair is dirty blonde, anyway.”

Recently a friend of mine began working for an internet site that posted this interesting statement, which for all I know may have been supported by qualitative research, that declared that although men think smart women are sexy, they prefer to gravitate toward women whom they are superior to when it comes to intelligence.  Seems crazy to me, especially when intelligence can be measured in so many ways.  Only, that’s not to say I don’t get it, because I do.

Over the past several years, I have joked about not really being sexy but playing that role on Twitter.  It’s a lot of tongue and cheek, but at the core of my statement, there is substance and truth.  It’s not that I do not consider myself sexy, but there’s a difference between being sexy and being sexy.  There really is.  When a professional role is one that allows you to be sexy, and it’s part of the appeal, it’s acceptable to use sex appeal in your work, but it’s not so when you are expected to be professional.  In that case, you are supposed to tone it down, not aim to seduce your client, but rather impress with your intellect.

My point here, I suppose, is that if someone meets me when I’m out and I’m in a role that’s meant to be sexy, working with a sports talk radio program allows you that freedom, might not welcome the professional woman they come to know.  I suppose actors might have similar plights when they end up being real, as opposed to the character they played in a movie role.

The people I met while tweeting for a radio program, who knew me as a ‘social media gal’ seemed to drop me like a hot potato when they realized I was an intelligent buisness woman.  Was I all the sudden less than?  It seems so.  It’s happened in both my personal and business worlds.  It causes me to think about that quote, and wonder if it’s true.  Do men prefer to be around people who do not challenge them intellectually?  Is it good to know, but not know more?

What’s an intelligent person supposed to do, when they find that the opposite sex prefers them to be dumb or at least dumber than?  If you open your mouth and words come out, and they happen to make sense, should you tone it down so that you do not appear to be intelligent, or more so just to keep the guy?  If you know me, you already know my answer.

Yours truly,



Is @BillOReilly a bad guy?

I have always liked Bill O’Reilly.  I don’t know him personally, but I wish I did.  In fact, he’s probably one of the people I’d include on the list of people I would most like to have a conversation with about just about anything.  No doubt, I would learn something, probably lots of things.

I bring him up because yesterday I happened to be listening to the radio, and Bill was a guest on the show.  He was talking about his new book, Killing England, and about how he was set up in what he referred to as a ‘hit’ in a smear campaign by those with opposing views from his own.  His words echoed loudly, almost as a warning for Americans to pay attention, as we allow people to remove reminders of our country’s history.

Some say if you fail to understand the argument of those with opposing views, you fail to understand your own stance.  So even if you’re not a fan of Mr. O’Reilly, or agree with him on various issues. it’s probably not such a bad idea, if you take the time to listen to what he has to say.

The closest I ever came to meeting him was when I interviewed Alison Levine, the amzing woman who climbed Mt Everest, and does so much for so many.  We were having dinner in New York City, and Bill was sitting next to us, no doubt discussing something of substance.

Is Bill a bad guy?  Did he make mistakes which caused him to deserve being ousted from his perch on whichever television network ran his show?  Or was he a victim of a smear campaign?  Bill referred to the entertainment and news industry of which he was a part of for so many years, as hateful.  Such a shame, when people set out to destroy others without any regard.

Objective journalism and an opinion column are about as similar as the Bible and Playboy magazine – Walter Cronkite